Perspective in Parenting

Tiffini has me thinking about parenting today. {Her post is amazing.} I don't know what wisdom a simple homemama can offer {especially since my girls are only 8 and 10}, but I do know this: it helps me to BE INTENTIONAL. So as I go about my parenting, fully admitting I don't know the perfect way, here's the wisdom I intend to follow each day:

But even the best intentions {combined with great grace} need a dash of PERSPECTIVE. I was reminded of that when I read this confession from a grandmother last night:

I came close to that perspective in my Freedom To Be post last week, but a woman who's had time to fail, time to renew and time to reflect really gets it. Her eye contact wisdom is HUGE! What better way for me to let my children know I delight in them...that I have time for them...that they MATTER more than a clean house ever will?!?!

Happy parenting to you today, my friends. And to those of you who aren't parents and are wondering when I'll get back to the design side of things, I've got a House Beautiful-inspired post swirling in my head just for you!


P.S. For more parenting perspective, visit Tiffini at House of Belonging today. I'm floored by the fact that she is both mom and grandmother. What a privilege to have gained perspective with her older children, yet have the chance to apply it with her younger children!

P.P.S. This has nothing to do with parenting, but if you're a "recovering good girl" as Emily calls it, you HAVE to visit Chatting At The Sky today. I can't wait to read her book!


  1. I might need to print that eye contact excerpt and hang it everywhere in my house! I agree wholeheartedly but always seem to get caught up in the whirlwind of 'house stuff' the minute I get home every day. It starts with having to feed that hungry little mouth right away and tends to snowball from that point. Maybe the key is establishing time frames. From 6-7 we eat dinner, clean up, and pack tomorrow's lunches. After 7pm it's all about eye contact and interaction.
    OK- I'm going to try it~ thanks for letting me ramble on your blog to figure it out. ;)

  2. I always love your ramblings, T. Rambling is how I process, so bring it, girl! Your little one has such big, captivating eyes. I bet looking onto them will feed your soul as well as hers!

    much love,

  3. I loved Emily's post today also!!! A lot! I love your family sign..maybe you could make them for our blogs!
    I have to confess. I need more eye contact. I catch myself being busy working and not looking at Grace when she is talking to me. Boy am I convicted...big time! I am so glad you did share today. It is never wasted...ever!
    I think I am going to tweak my tag line and make it say what you said on your comment yesterday...it made MORE sense..lol did that make sense?

  4. eye contact - boy do I know it and boy do I need to be reminded. I also need to remove my laptop to the office upstairs when Andrew & Charlie are up, cause a quick check of email or a peak at google reader happens WAY TOO MUCH and then I'm only half listening. Loved your parenting wisdom too.
    Thanks for your sweet comment today. I was thinking of you this morning when I was dancing with my boys in the kitchen. The music? The Gummy Bear Song! Don't think you'll be adding that one to your playlist anytime soon! ha! :)
    xo, Tessa

  5. conviction.
    i was just being chatted at , for the dozenth time in the last hour & i realized i'm looking at my computer screen while she was chatting.
    holy run on sentences batman

    i <3 emily

  6. just saw emily's video. oh my, that is me. oh, how she struck a cord. I just preordered her book. i don't want to wish away the summer, but sept. better hurry.

  7. Such a good reminder. Did you write all of those things--"Love them, live in the present.."? I love the way it looks all together. It's all there. Simple things that are profound if put into action, but to live it is the challenge. Thanks again for sharing. I don't mind an absence of design post. This is good stuff!

  8. LOVE your heart for your girls....
    LOVE this post...

    the "eye contact wisdom" shook me....
    I try to give it...it's everything to me, too, but I'm SURE there are times when I clean while they tell another exciting idea or tell me another great story....

    I have to remember that it's not just important...it's EVERYTHING.

  9. Morning Lins....oh, how I chime in with "eye contact!" My sons are OLD (LOL!); but our 20 year old is with us. I just mentioned this very thing to My Guy. Maya Angelou says our eyes should light up when our children enter the room. Can you IMAGINE how safe and loved our children feel when we give them our all (be present) and our eyes. Love this!

  10. What a wonderful post and don't you just hear things right when you need to?? At my mom's group in church this morning someone said something about playing with your child for an hour a day and I thought "AN HOUR? A WHOLE HOUR?!!". Boy am I going to wish in a couple years that my son would want to play with me for a whole hour, yet I'm willing to give that up right now to clean my house or write a blog post.

    I will remember that eye contact advice, at least for the rest of today. :-)

  11. I have a 15 year old, only child so worked hard to get this right; I have clearly stated our beliefs and expectations to him on a regular basis. If they don't hear it from you, they hear it from friends, TV, etc. One might think that living a good life and having a solid home will transfer to your children by osmosis. State your expectations during these good times.

    For example,"If you want to know the truth, come to Dad or I and ask. You will hear lots of things from friends that are not right. If you want accurate info, ask us. We will always tell you the truth."
    This has worked brilliantly.

    Also, those precious minutes in the morning getting ready and driving to school set the tone for the day. You have the power to make it positive!

    God Bless.

  12. Wise words, Anon. Thank you for adding your perspective. I agree that those minutes in the car to and from school are priceless. We've chosen not to carpool for that reason. (Of course it would be convenient, but the sacrifice is worth it. I learn lots in the car!) As you know better than I, we won't have that car time forever. I try to keep that in mind when I'm weary. :)

    Blessings to you as you parent your teen!

  13. Hello! I know this is an older post, but I hope you'll see.....the photos aren't there anymore. As in, I can see them in the post, but when I click on them, Picasa says "not found". Am I supposed to be able to access them? I would love to print the top one and hang it up in my bathroom! Thank you for your help.

  14. I love the "love them" quote! Is there a way to download this or buy this? I would love a copy. Thanks!


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